If you’re feeling suicidal, it can be difficult to know what to do or how to cope with your thoughts and your feelings. You may be feeling very depressed, anxious, powerless, or unwanted. Or you could just be feeling really bad but not know what those bad feelings are. If you’re dealing with suicidal thoughts and are concerned about your well-being and safety, you are not alone. Not only are there others who have had similar feelings and thoughts as you, but there are also many people who can and want to help you.
Tell someone. Contact a trusted friend, family member, mentor or school employee who you can discuss options with. It’s very important to reach out to someone you trust. Sit down with them and open up to them. Entertain the idea that there could be other options that you haven’t considered yet. This could be something like sitting with someone and writing out ways you can work through it. In talking with someone, they may be able to provide suggestions on how to manage your feelings or guide you to those who can help you better than they . If you don’t have anyone you feel comfortable opening up to, reach out online, as there are many people who want to help. You can chat online with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, Suicide Stop or TEEN LINE. There are also people, like us here at Free2Luv, who can provide support as well. We’re always here for you!
Call the national suicide hotline to talk to someone who will be able to get you immediate help. Calling the hotline is completely anonymous, and there are always people there who want to help. The phone lines are answered by trained professionals available 24/7; the call is free and confidential. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline’s number is 1-800-273-8255.
What can you do to help yourself feel better?
If you’re feeling emotional pain, it can be difficult to believe that you’ll ever feel better. Please know that along with support from family, friends, and others in your life, there are some coping mechanisms to help you get through each day. Take each moment one at a time, and keep in mind that your moods and feelings have changed before, so change can and will happen again.
Here are ways you can support yourself:
“That is the depression talking, not me.”
“I will get through this.”
“I don’t really want to die. I just want the pain to end.”
“My suicidal thoughts are not rational.”
“Suicidal thoughts are a symptom, not a solution.”
The hopelessness that comes with feeling suicidal is only as powerful as the amount of energy you give those thoughts. There is an old Native American proverb about 2 wolves – one evil and one good – and whichever one you feed, wins. The ideology behind the proverb can be applied to thoughts of suicide and to thoughts of living. One wolf represents life and the other represents suicide; which one wins? The one you feed into. Coping statements can help you feed the right one. The main point behind coping statements is to not give up and to feed the right wolf.
If the example coping statements don’t feel right for you, ask yourself what you would really like for someone to tell you right now, or think about what you would tell someone who was feeling suicidal for the same reasons you do. Answering those questions can help you to create your own personalized coping statements.
Along with the possibility of keeping a journal to write down your feelings or things you’re looking forward to, consider keeping a gratitude journal. A gratitude journal is a journal in which you write down things you’re grateful for. Think about the past few days – what has put a smile on your face or in your heart? Maybe it’s a friend who invited you out for lunch, or maybe it’s having opportunities to take your dog out for a walk on a beautiful day, or maybe you found a dollar in your jacket pocket that you didn’t know was there. Anything at all you’re grateful for, write it down. You may be surprised how that list of gratitude builds up quickly and highlights all the great things in your life you may not have fully noticed if you hadn’t written it down. The positive effect that comes from simply writing something down can make a significant impact on.
If you’re reading this, we want you to know how happy we are that you are here. We believe each of us in this world has a unique purpose to fulfill and no one can fulfill someone else’s. You are a gift to this world and we want you to keep shining your light. We believe we are all in this together – if one of us is hurting, it is up to each of us to be there for one another. We know how powerful and life changing it can be to have the support of even one person in your corner, and we want you to know our entire community supports you. We are here for you.
We invite you to take a moment to listen to some stories of others who have overcome their difficulties HERE. Their stories help to show that you are not alone. You have the inner strength to move through whatever struggle you may be experiencing. We believe in you!
Suicide is a difficult thing to talk about. It’s a very sensitive topic that often falls into a category of unspoken topics. People are under the impression that by talking about suicide, it may cause someone to think about suicide and ultimately end up acting on the thought. However, what people don’t realize is that if someone is at the point where they are already having suicidal thoughts, they won’t be giving them the idea because it’s already there.
Suicide is the second overall leading cause of death for youth between the ages of 13 and 24. It can be a difficult thing to talk about as topics related to mental health are often stigmatized. However, talking about suicide can lead to a decreased number of suicide attempts. It’s important to keep in mind that just because a person has mentioned suicide, it doesn’t mean they are thinking of ending their life. Talk of suicide can just be a person struggling to find another solution to their current situation.
What are some circumstances leading to suicidal thoughts?
There are several difficult life circumstances that can increase suicidal thoughts, which include the following:
If you suspect someone may be dealing with these circumstances, please reach out to them and offer support.
Youth that are dealing with suicidal thoughts are, on average, not likely to talk about it with others. However, there could be clear warning signs you should be aware of.
If you know someone who has or is displaying the above behaviors or if you are concerned that someone may be heading in that direction, there are ways you can help them. Providing effective support is often overlooked, and when asked if people support their loved ones or friends, the answer is generally “of course we do.” But in many cases, we think we are supporting people just by being around them and that if they need to talk, we are there. Often times, though, people who are in dire need of help don’t talk about it with anyone. They start to feel like they aren’t worth someone’s time, so they simply stay quiet. You need to show and tell them that they are worth your time. It’s okay if you feel uncomfortable talking to them about their feelings. The point is that you really are there for them and they know you care. Doing so can make a huge difference in a world where they think nobody cares.
Below is a list of beneficial responses and actions when offering support to someone who is feeling suicidal.
When should you talk to someone about suicidal thoughts? The very moment you think that they might be suicidal. Remember, talking about it doesn’t put the idea in their minds, as it’s likely already there if they are showing signs of feeling suicidal. Sadly, suicidal thoughts are common in kids and young adults. However, with your support, they can change those feelings. Be there for them, give them a sense of belonging, and continue to talk with them. And if you need support to support them, we are here for you. Just as you show the person who is feeling suicidal that they aren’t alone, we want you to know that you aren’t alone either. Everyone needs help at some point in their lives, so don’t feel like you can’t speak up and ask for help. It takes a village to support one person, and it takes an outside village to support that village. Don’t be afraid to reach out. We believe in you and in those you are supporting!
Suicide Hotline – If you or someone you care about is in crisis and needs immediate help, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1- 800- 273- 8255. The phone lines are answered by trained professionals available 24/7; the call is free and confidential. If emergency medical care is needed, call 9-1-1 or go to the emergency room of the nearest hospital.